Topic: Other people's feelings

Hi. I'm pretty new here, I just learned about alexithymia and I'm trying to analyze it properly to see whether it's something that fits me. My question is: do you (plural) have difficulty realizing what people feel? I don't. I'm the "mom" friend; I'm good with words and I've always been observant, which makes me give good advice. However, I feel like it's more because of social training. For example, recently my friend's best friend started dating her ex-boyfriend who has hurt her in the past, and didn't tell her about it. Logically, I know she can feel upset/hurt/betrayed and like her friend has failed her. I talked her through it and helped her deal with the situation. Personally though, I feel nothing when I think about that. Like, no "oh, I'd feel bad too". It's more like, I know from social experiences she could feel bad about it and I know that the logical advice should be "talk to her", because talking about your feelings is expected. I used to think I'm an empathetic person, but the more I learn about detachment and alexithymia, the more I realize it's not me feeling what the person is feeling, it's more of a logical explanation put into words.
How is it for you?