≡ Topic: My mom kept "telling me how to feel"

My mom kept "telling me how to feel"
01.05.2016 by MrG

How many of us can relate to this?
I just saw it on a post by DXS on a duscussion about brain trauma. Yes to both for me BTW.
Also, does anybody else experience other people in our lives today that "speak for us" emotionally?
I have found that once new people have interacted with those around me, they tend to join in. How I feel is often pre-assumed and any attempt for me to express otherwise is either brushed aside as unimportant or seen as me grumbling or kicking off.
Could it be the case that others find it too difficult to guage how I feel from me, and so find it easier and more comfortable to look to others around me?
It makes me feel very isolated and uncomfortable either way. - (I have found myself referring to online dictionaries to help me at least use some words to describe my often confusing feelings.)

BINGO!
03.05.2016 by DXS

Expressing any feeling of mine led to brush off, or from a boyfriend, it got, "You're crazy." Invalidation. Mom did it to me (although she vehemently denies it, which led to my participation on a forum about emotional abuse....)

I just hate it when people pre-conceive their expectations of you and if you don't meet those pre-conceived expectations.....

Mom is trying better now to understand me, although originally she used the "age" thing as an excuse to not have to try to understand me, but I said, "you try or it's NO relationship with me...."