≡ Topic: How do I tell him he has alex?

How do I tell him he has alex?
18.07.2016 by Artist

A few mouth ago I ended a long relationship with a man I love so deeply. A few weeks ago I googled "dificulty showing emotions" and found alexithymia, that I never heard about before. I recognice every single explanation and know he has it.

My wish is to find my way back to him. (We still have contact.) I dont want him to change and I dont require any "romance". But I do want him to know about this. Everything is so damn clear to me now and I realise I have put demands on him that he couldnt possibly live up to. I just want him to understand why our communication has failed and why we both felt distance to eachother.

But how do I say this without him denying it and taking even more distance from me?

Also, I wish I had someone to chat with. There is no one in my enviroment that understand me in this. Is there anyone in a similar position as me that wants to talk?

send him here
03.08.2016 by jdr

I'm in a similar, but slightly different situation. I fell in love and dated a woman a couple of years ago. I ended it when it became clear that she had no regard for my feelings. But I still care about her and tried to be friends. I sent her an email this morning telling her that if she genuinely wanted to be friends with me, she would have to take this test. If she doesn't or reacts negatively, then I've lost a friend... but I can't have a friend who doesn't care about your feelings and isn't, at least, self-aware.