27.12.2016 by feels404
Did you ever told anyone close to you about your lack/understanding of emotions? How did they react? What happened?
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I'm 27. About 7 months ago I started my first "relationships".
Which just happened, I didn't looked for it. I was never interested in relationships and I didn't think about it.
It made me realize something about myself, because she asked questions that I've never asked myself or even think about:
- How often do you get angry?
- Do you feel happy?
- What do you feel about me?
And such
On which I spent a good chunk of time to think about it and to answer. At the end it was more about what the "normal" person will answer than the truth.
In the whole period of it she called me "the most calm person she ever knew", cold and even a "robot" - ha! It was a close one
I saw her as a very emotional person. Which I liked a lot, and learned much from. She is like a total opposite of me
And after a while I started looking into psychology, tests and discussion about this subject.
I wouldn't say I don't have emotions, because I do get irritated or angry sometimes. At least I think I do.
But at the same time, when somebody close get sick I don't feel worried, which from other people I saw - I should.
When I became an uncle and held the little one in my arms the only thoughts I had is "try not to drop him".
Stuff like violent/accidents/injury videos, which from what I saw in comments people couldn't watch or wish they didn't see - I can easily finish and don't feel anything about it emotionally and only knew what I should feel to appear normal.
When I shared something like that to my close friends I often get "don't send stuff like that to me ever again", which I found strange and after a while I stopped sharing anything altogether.
Back to girlfriend. It doesn't feel fair for her to continue the relationships. Which I think will end eventually.
All of it seems like a puzzle, where I'm seeking for correct answers or actions.
However, I keep thinking about her and I like to see her happy. Which makes me think that it's more of "issue of identifying emotions", and not total lack of emotions. At the same time my actions that makes her happy could be interpreted as a reward for solving a piece of puzzle. Which could seem very fucked up way of life to somebody.
The same pretty much applies to my friends as well. In much lesser extend.
I tried once to tell about it to my brothers, which turned out into more negative reactions than I expected. So i changed a subject with reasoning that I've meant something else. And never brought it up to anybody again
I'm not sad or happy, It's more like I'm just numb inside and fake outside
I want to share it with somebody, but I worry of what gonna happen if they will realize that my interactions with them are fake. To which I cannot help
So here I'm. Done
My score of test is 138 if it's matter